When waiting for children becomes too long …….

May 3, 2017

Inspiring cases of childlessness journey

When couples are doing all the can to have children and the years roll by from 5 years  to 10 years to 15 years and more. It can be a traumatic experience. When really does the waiting become too long? is it in the number of years or the status of your mind when you are still relatively stable, hoping and acting

Waiting for too long is a relative term that is dependent on the individuals involved.

Here are two cases of couples that have just ended their childlessness journey of 18 years and 21 years respectively.

Pastor Daniel Unongo, the Chaplain Benue State Government House/Senior Special Assistant to Governor Samuel Ortom on Religion, welcomed a set of twins with his wife, after 18 years of marriage. The governor is pictured cradling the twins yesterday evening during a visit to the new parents.


A trader, Mrs Chinyere Ogbonnaya who waited for 21 years before having her first child on March 24, 2017.

What was the experience waiting for 21 years before having a child?

I waited for 21 years before having my child who I call my angel. Many people who hear or read my story would not know the amount of pain I passed through. Many times I was humiliated and mocked but I thank God for His grace and love upon my life. He strengthened me through the years. I don’t know how I managed to remain strong through the years. It can only be God who helped me.

Were there times you felt like giving up on becoming a mother?

There were many times I felt that way but God helped me. My husband too has been supportive. He is a wonderful man. I have never met anyone like him.  There were times when I felt discouraged and he would try to liven up my mood.

Did you at anytime conceive during the 21 years of waiting?

Yes, I did but had miscarriages – I had about two or three miscarriages. I felt extremely sad; words fail me to express how I felt those times. You know how one feels when one is about to have something one always dreams about and just as that thing is finally to become yours, it is taken away. That is how I felt during those times.


How did you feel when you finally held your son in your arms?

I kept shedding tears; the feeling can be described as ‘heaven on earth.’ I didn’t sleep that night; I just kept staring at him. I spent hours singing praises to God.

What is your advice to women who are on the verge of giving up after waiting for some years to give birth?

They should trust God. He is able to do all things. They should not allow themselves to be discouraged; people will mock them and say all sorts about their situation. They must remain strong and hold their heads up high. I always say that if I can wait for 21 years, anyone can. I don’t know how I managed to put up a smile on my face throughout the 21 years. It was indeed a tough task for me.

Famous quote

I realised when you look at your mother; you are looking at the purest love you will ever know — American author, journalist, screenwriter, Mitch Albom

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