Polygamy involves marriage with more than one spouse, when a man is married to more than one wife at a time. In Nigeria and some other countries, polygamy is extremely common and it comes with its predicaments.
In recent times, the new trend is for men not to legally marry the partners thats have children for them, especially when the man is still legally married. So you have terms like baby mamas. What ever the case is here is an amazing example of how two women have decided to live and have a good relationship despite the circumstance that has brought them together.
Two Nigerian women, Olubunmi Ajai Layode and Mo Abatan, both resident in the United Kingdom, have proven that women don’t have to be rivals just because they had been with same man, especially if the man in question turned out to be irresponsible. Yesterday, the women and the children they had with their ex, Dafe, went out together. Read the post published by Bunmi on her Facebook page:
“Mo Abatan and I hung out yesterday with our kids who happen to be siblings. I met Seyifunmi when she was around 5 or so… and even then, her dad was not taking his responsibilities up with her. Every birthday card or gift was by me. Every visit to her was at my insistence.
Mo and I remained friends and talk on the phone from time to time. She is a good person and an amazing friend. Even after I left Dafe, we still kept in touch. We determined that the two siblings would not turn out irresponsible like their Dad. Seyifunmi and Tobi met maybe once on one of the rare occasions that their father agreed to have them spend holidays with him.
Dupe and I have been planning that the kids should hang out more and yesterday, we made it happen.
But this is the thing – even though there is very little physical resemblance, (Seyifunmi is Dafe’s spitting image and Tobi is Jopa’s spitting image), their bahaviours are very similar! Both are very body conscious. They watch what they eat and are very slim and both have very quick comebacks to anything you say to them. Lol. The body image, maybe they get it from Dafe who is quite vain but the intelligence to be able to come up with quick comebacks is defo not from him.
People can’t understand how and why Mo and I can be good friends. They say we are rivals. I say we are not. He was not dating us at the same time. The Bisola he dated at the same time with me sef, I also became friends with her. I think Dafe knows how to choose good women. Women don’t have to be wounding each other over men”