So the holidays are over and school is back for the kids.. Sometimes we feel we havent played our roles well especially during the holidays when the kids are all around..
The fact is Parenting is not easy, it must be deliberate and needs wisdom, planning and the more your learn the better you get at it.
Every parent has a role whether you are the father or mother. Parents have four major roles to play in the life of their children.
INSTRUCTIONAL ROLES: We must instruct our children:
*To behave well in public.
*To rise up early each day.
*To pray first thing as they rise.
*To be the first to greet people.
*To clean up themselves properly.
*To clean their environment.
*To be early and timely to every daily tasks.
*To be orderly.
*To be respectful to people.
*To speak in decent language.
*To organise themselves.
*To plan their schedules.
*To have their daily timetable off hand.
*To comport themselves in quietness.
*To be articulate, reasonable and expectant.
*To ask questions when in doubt.
*To listen carefully with understanding.
*To act with decorum, courtesy and humility always.
*To defend the family name and image at all times.
*To obey elders, set rules and regulations.
*To pray before retiring to bed at night.
REBUKE ROLES:We must rebuke our children:
*When they portray laziness.
*When they are prayerless.
*When they appear dirty.
*When they’re insolent.
*When they speak foul languages.
*When they speak improperly.
*When they sit carelessly.
*When they participate in unsolicited discussions.
*When they come late to appointments or tasks.
*When they talk back to elders in anger.
*When you notice pride in them.
*When they become spendthrift.
*When they eat irregularly.
*When they cannot control their appetite.
*When you notice ostentatious lifestyle in them.
*When they think about materialism always.
*When they unnecessarily compare themselves with others.
*When they speak abusively of other parents or elders or mates.
*When you notice the spirit of hatred in them.
*When they make hate speeches.
*When they complain always about others.
*When they move with suspicious characters.
*When they are not extolling learning.
*When they’re not proud of academic achievements.
*When they abuse their teachers at home.
*When they discredit their school.
*When they plan to revenge or retaliate against actions.
*When they refuse to obey constituted authority.
*When they fail to pray.
EXHORTATION ROLES: Parents must Praise their children :
*When they do well in assignments and exams.
*When they are properly dressed.
*When they speak well in public.
*When they speak well of their institution and teachers.
*When they speak well of others.
*When their carriage is decent.
*When they express Godly values.
*When they always talk about excellence.
*When they spend less time watching TV.
*When they spend more time studying.
*When they spend less time talking.
*When they spend more time listening.
*When they spend right time praying.
*When they spend less time playing.
*When they know what to do.
*When they know what is right.
*When they refuse to do what is wrong.
*When their ambition is to be the best in good endeavours.
*When they speak of becoming Great People.
*When they take action that meets good vision.
EDUCATIVE ROLES: Parents must Teach their children :
*How to live honest lifes.
*How to live amongst people.
*How to live in comfort with others.
*How to love and appreciate others.
*How to be fair to all concerned.
*How to love their teachers, school and those in authority over them.
*How to obey rules and regulations.
*How to live in dignity and self esteem.
*How to plan their future.
*How to raise Godly homes.
*How proper education answers to most of life’s challenges.
*How to escape from bad friendship.
*How to pick a career.
*How to develop their career.
*How to pass through life successfully by depending on God and not man.
*How to pass examinations without malpractice.
*How to be studious and build their brains.
*How to set academic standards for now and their future.
*How to flaunt Excellent Achievements and not Beauty.
*How to be Intellectual Celebrities.
*How to have a vision.
*That Godliness with contentment is great gain.
*How to love GOD and their neighbor.
*How to live in fear of GOD.
_When we play these roles, our children will come out great and we the parents will have a good old age.
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