Parenting style is different for every child and at various ages. Believe it or not children are good at negotiating especially the younger ones just to have their way and yes they always want to if you give them a chance.
Have you ever met a more persistent creature than a child trying to get what he wants? I don’t know about you, but I haven’t. There is no one with greater resolve or dedication than a kid on a mission to get their parent’s approval. Sometimes i wonder how and where they learn to negotiate from especially for younger children.
So expect that your child will negotiate always, however as a parent one you allow your child to have his or her way when negotiating you have set a precedent.
What a parent needs to adopt is not for the child to have his or her way at all or at least not 100%…
One way to handle this situation is using three simple words: “Asked and Answered.”
Instead of repeating yourself or jumping into a lecture, avoid by getting eye to eye and follow the process below:
Ask,“Have you ever heard of ‘Asked and Answered’?” (He’ll probably say no.)
Ask, “Did you ask me a question about ………..”(He’ll say yes.)
Ask, “Did I answer it?” (He’ll probably say, “Yes, but, I really ….”)
Ask,“Do I look like the kind of mom/dad/teacher who will change her/his mind if you ask me the same thing over and over?” (Chances are your child will walk away, maybe with a frustrated grunt, and engage in something else.)
If he asks again, simply say,“Asked and Answered.”(No other words are necessary!)
Once this technique has been established, these are the only words you need to say.
Consistency is key! Once you decide to use “Asked and Answered” be sure to stick to it. If the questioning continues even after you’ve responded with “Asked and Answered,” simply walk away. Once your child sees you won’t even engage in the discussion, they will learn very quickly that nagging isn’t an effective behavior to achieve their goals.
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