Bringing a baby into your life is going to mean major changes to your routine and your energy levels. From now on, you will have to put your baby’s wants and needs first. Going out and about will need a lot more organizing than just grabbing your wallet and keys. You will have to plan everything around your baby’s needs, and if you want a night off, you’ll have to arrange childcare. Being a father will certainly affect your social life – a new baby is very trying and also tiring. You may find that lack of sleep means you don’t feel like going out even when you have the opportunity.
You may be worried about how your new baby is going to affect your time, sleep and your social life. You may also feel inadequately prepared for such a huge responsibility. This baby will depend entirely on you, and you may be unsure about his or her everyday needs, such as feeding, burping, bathing, changing nappies, or even the correct way to carry your child.
Even if you have gone back to work while your partner has stayed at home, you will need to take on a share of the household chores. The biggest cause of relationship tension is where responsibilities for parenting and housework are unequally divided. Evidence shows that sharing these responsibilities more equally strengthens relationships and helps to get through this difficult transition. Fathers need to think carefully about whether they can spend less time at work. And if they can’t they can still do a great deal of work at home to let the mother know that she is not expected to do it all on their own.
Life will never be the same again. It may be a whole lot better and more rewarding, but it’s also going to be tiring, stressful and challenging. Preparing yourself for this is the first part of becoming a new parent. Your routine will ultimately have to change, particularly your sleeping patterns. From now on, you will have to use the time when your baby is asleep to sleep yourself. Your baby will not know the difference between day and night, and will sleep irregularly.
Another major change will be your relationship with your partner. Most couples see a drop in their satisfaction with their relationship after they become parents. They have less time to spend with each other, it’s more difficult to go out, and there is another person in the family who grabs most of their attention. Try to make time to spend together, perhaps just watching a movie, when your baby allows.
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Take one step at a time – you can’t know everything and you won’t get everything right the first time. Being a new parent is one of the biggest challenges anyone can go though, take your time and keep trying.