If you’re about to get married (or even newly married), you might have already thought to yourself, “should I take my husband’s last name?” It’s a pretty normal thing to consider when getting married, and most couples have some sort of discussion about what they’ll do. Luckily, the woman having to change her name is no longer the norm, and for most women who change their names after marriage now) is a choice.
While the modern trend is to keep your own last name, or hyphenate yours with your husbands, when you get married, there are still plenty of good reasons to take his name as your own. So, let’s buck the trend and be traditional with these ten good reasons why you should take your husband’s last name when you marry:
Of course, it doesn’t change the way that you feel about each other, but it can create a greater sense of togetherness and of unity. Having the same last name means that you can be referred to more easily as a family unit, a team, rather than two individuals.
Men do tend to take the more traditionalist view on this one and most guys would rather prefer that their wife did take their last name. His feelings are not the only thing to consideration, but if it makes him happy, then it might be one of them.
If nothing else, it can be the perfect opportunity to get rid of a last name you hate, or people find difficult to pronounce. After all, not all last names are exactly easy to pronounce.
Taking your husband’s last name will usually make relationships with the in-laws less fraught too. Although this can’t be said for everyone, people of a generation or two ago, will think it strange if you don’t change your name.
You could argue that it’s wrong for them do so, but people will automatically refer to you as Mrs ‘your husband’s name’ anyway. It can be a real bore having to correct people, every time you check into a hotel, so changing it will just get rid of that hassle.
In the future, your children will want to know why you and your husband have different names and so will their friends. Changing your name will make it easier for them and it will also avoid having to have a debate over which name the children themselves should be given.
Getting married doesn’t mean that you cease to be an individual, but it is a new chapter in your life. Changing your name, marks that change and says to the world that the two of you are now a unit and you are now a wife.
On a purely practical basis, sharing joint names will mean that signing up for joint accounts and contracts will be much easier. If you are married, then many people will assume that you share the same last name and you will find yourself constantly correcting them and correcting the name on business forms too.
Finally, taking your husband’s last name is a personal decision and there is no reason why you have to follow the tradition. However, changing your name does show a sense of unity and bonding together, as well as avoiding a lot of confusion later. It’s also just nice, to be known as one name, rather than by your separate names.