You’ve had the bag packed for weeks. Diapers? Check. Beddings and pillow? Check. But have you given any thought to who you’ll bring into the delivery room? It may sound like a pretty simple consideration, but some women find it surprisingly tricky to negotiate—particularly when family members take the liberty of inviting themselves.
Many hospitals in Nigeria don’t allow the fathers into the delivery room, however a couple of private hospitals allow it. Some have a two-person rule (mum-to-be plus two); others have no official limits and leave it up to the doctors to decide.
As a mother, you have to be frank about what you’re comfortable with. Maybe the whole family is welcome as long as they stay in the waiting room. Just be sure to establish the ground rules ahead of time and don’t assume your partner (or anyone else) can read your mind. Be ultra-specific about when you want to have other people with you. Maybe you’re happy to have a full house during the labor, but when it comes to the actual delivery, everyone but your husband needs to leave. There’s no how you would feel totally comfortable with everyone staring at your vagina. Besides, those first moments spent bonding with baby are very special, and many parents don’t want anyone intruding.
And what about the period after the birth, when families just love to stroll in? If you deliver via C-section, you may not want visitors for a few days or more; if you delivery naturally, you may be up for entertaining by the end of the day. It is always better to handle these situations in advance, and you’ll be able to focus on what really matters, which is your new baby. If you’re still not sure what to do, check out these words of wisdom from mums who’ve been there
“I was pretty strict about NO guests in the delivery room (besides my partner). I can’t imagine someone not intimately involved in the process of creating the child being in the room during the birth!” …while some worry that hubby could be a little clueless “ – Mrs Tamuno (Mother of three; two boys and a girl)
“Beforehand, I told my mom that I wanted it to be my husband and me. But when the time came and she left the room, I wanted her back in. She’d been through this before and was so encouraging! My husband ran after her, and she was glad when he asked her to come back.” – Mrs Folu (Mother of a baby boy)
“My sister is my very best friend, and since she already has a child, she was really able to help me through it. I’ll be in the delivery room with her when she has her next one.” …but be careful: some brothers and sisters make themselves too comfortable “My sister not only took a picture of me while I was in labor, she keeps showing family members the videos when they come over! – Mrs Gboyega (Mother of a baby girl)
So, who would you rather have in the labour room? Tell us in the comment section below!