In recent news, we’ve been hearing many stories about celebrities and politicians who have cheated on their pregnant wives. Thankfully, it is not that common a problem that warrants you to hire a private investigator to snoop around your husband’s business just because you just are pregnant. But why do men cheat on their pregnant?
Well, lack of a sex life while a woman is pregnant and her changing appearance (unfortunately) affect the man and it’s a high-risk time for infidelity. It’s not every relationship though. You may be growing a baby, but there’s also a grown one living in your house. But, really, at the core of it, what makes a man cheat when his wife is pregnant?
For many men, engaging in sex is a form of emotional closeness. When their partners push them away, they feel rejected not just sexually, but also emotionally- and many are apprehensive that their partner will “choose the child” over them after it is born.
Similar to the changes women go through when pregnant, men have their fair share of anxieties as well.
Some of challenges men face when their wives are pregnant include fear of being left out, changes in attitude towards sex, concern and worry about the child’s safety, anxiety over their wive’s safety and anxiety over upcoming life changes. They also feel overwhelmed by the changes that are happening.
It is a common misconception that men cheat on their pregnant wives because they are repulsed by the pregnant body. But the fact is — and this is good news for us ladies — the majority of men find their wives more sexually appealing when they are pregnant than ever before.
So why do men cheat on their pregnant wives? It depends solely on the man. The bottom line is, most men who cheat on their pregnant wives would cheat wether she was pregnant or not. Her pregnancy gives them more of a false reason and makes them reckless. It also gives them a good excuse for when they get caught. Unfortunately, that makes all men look bad.
Lets be positive, ladies! It doesn’t have to get to this. Let’s look at some ways we can nurture our relationship with our spouses throughout pregnancy.
Schedule in romance: Now’s a good time to start a weekly date night — something you’d be smart to continue after baby’s on board. In the first few months, though, you may be taking those dates at home.
Be spontaneous: Sometimes (or better, as often as you can), for absolutely no reason at all, surprise your partner with a back hug, a weekend afternoon delight, a compliment that makes him blush or just get frisky.
Mix baby business with relationship pleasure: Follow up a trip to the baby store with dinner and a movie or go for lunch your favourite restaurant after an ultrasound appointment.
Get passionate: Communication is key in every relationship, but it’s especially essential for couples during pregnancy. Amp up the passion! Leave him suggestive messages that he’ll find in his pocket when he reaches in for some change and that will make him think of you.
Chat him up: Keep your relationship and romance first and foremost during pregnancy. Text him sometimes simply to tell him you love him and that you can’t wait to see him at the end of the day.
Talk: Communication is key in every relationship, but it’s especially essential for couples during pregnancy. Be sure to talk through changes instead of just letting them happen. Keep those lines of communication open even once baby’s arrived — hearing each other over the sound of the baby crying will be especially challenging but important.
These are some of the ways you could spice up your marriage while your pregnant. Try it out and you’ll see it works wonders. But then, what would you do if your husband cheated on you?