One minute, the sight of your partner makes you want to tell him to leave the house, the next minute, you want him to lie beside you at night. Those are your hormones working. .
See, as your estrogen and progesterone levels rise, they cause changes in your body that boost libido. Estrogen in particular, which serves such pregnancy-related functions as boosting blood flow to your uterus (and to your entire pelvis), also increases vaginal lubrication and increases sensitivity in your breasts and nipples.
It’s a righteous recipe for romance. But the same hormones can also conspire against you, especially in the beginning when nausea and fatigue can send you to bed for an entirely different reason. And toward the end, you may just feel too huge, unwieldy and, again, tired. That is why months four to six or so are often called the “honeymoon” trimester.
So where does that leave you? The relationship between your changing moods and your changing body: Just as every woman’s pregnancy is unique, so is every pregnant woman’s mood. If your spirit is willing but fears or misinformation are holding you back, this advice can help you relax. If you do want to make love, embrace your body. As long as your pregnancy is progressing normally, you can make love to your partner. However, some exceptions may include a history of miscarriage or preterm labor.
Be aware that it’s pretty common for some women to experience bleeding while making love, especially in the first trimester. This is caused by the normal swelling of capillaries in the cervix, which can burst when irritated during love making. While such spotting or bleeding is generally nothing to worry about, you should still mention it to your doctor or midwife.
What’s more, there’s typically no chance of hurting the baby during love making because the amniotic fluid and your cervix protect him. Love making can still be comfortable. The old standby missionary position for intercourse may not work for you now. Instead, try these options:
Spooning: Lie side by side with him behind you. This makes for more shallow penetration.
You on top: There’s no pressure on your belly, and you can control the speed and depth of penetration.
Side of the bed: You lie on your back on the edge of the bed with your knees bent and feet on the edge. He stands facing you. It’s like classic missionary, but he won’t be resting his body weight on you.
Living room love: Kneel on a couch with your belly facing the back of it; use your arms for support. He penetrates from behind.
Don’t worry, you would make love again after the baby comes. Just be aware that with the sudden drop of estrogen after delivery, the lining of your vagina would thin out, making intercourse feel like you’re losing your virginity all over again. This can be particularly true if you’re breastfeeding.
Most doctors recommend that you wait six weeks until after giving birth. The goals are to allow your body to heal, avoid infection and deal with any psychological or emotional issues you and your partner may be feeling.