It is almost every woman’s dream to have a little baby of her own. Choosing when to have a baby is one of the most important questions in her life. When a woman decides that she wants to have a baby, from that very instant, she unconsciously joins the threads of her life to another one, a life which is solely dependent on her, for its mere existence.
Having a baby involves preparation from the prenatal stage itself. The baby would be in your womb and so you must take care of a lot of things before making a decision. A baby may be a bundle of joy but with it comes a lot of responsibility. Motherhood is a full time job and the little one would need your attention and care 24×7.
Whether you are ready to for a baby or not is totally decided by your pregnancy report. Once you read that your pregnancy is confirmed, you may experience a feeling of uncontrollable happiness with a hint of thrill or you may feel terribly scared and unsure of what is to happen. If you feel the latter, it is not a very good sign. However, if you think you are ready, here are some points that you should give a thought before you finally make a decision.
The first and the foremost thing that you should give a thought to is the baby’s father. Both the parents play an important role in the upbringing of the child. If you are married, you should take into consideration what your husband thinks of having a baby. Most men find it difficult to come to terms with the fact that they would soon become a father. But when the idea finally sinks in, they are extremely elated and become loving husbands.
Being a mother requires tremendous emotional strength. You must be emotionally ready to support not just yourself but also your little one who will require your care and sympathy right from the first stage of pregnancy. Pregnancy involves a lot of mood swings, cravings, anger bouts that one has to handle maturely. There may be times that you may feel depressed or can’t handle the bouts of nausea and dizziness. All this is before the baby comes in to this world. This can be emotionally dampening, unless you are strong enough to handle it.
Many a times, women aren’t physically ready to have a baby. This cannot be determined by anyone other than a gynecologist. You need to check yourself at regular intervals to ensure that you are physically ready to have a baby. Your body will be the baby’s home for the next nine months and even a single deficiency or deprivation from your end may cause major problems to your child in the future. If you wish to have a baby, it would be advisable to visit a gynecologist first.
With the arrival of the baby, you will have a new set of challenges before you. You will have to be financially ready to make sure that all the basic needs of the baby are fulfilled. Pregnancy itself would require a lot of money, especially in terms of the various tests, health checkups, visits to the doctor, health supplements, medicines and not to forget the actual delivery expenses. You need to sit and analyze whether you are ready to support the little one financially or not.
Every person has a passion and it is very obvious that you have one too and for most women, it is their career. You might be very career-oriented and seeking to make a mark professionally. However, pregnancy may not allow you to give in your best. If not mentally prepared in advance, it will make a room for depression in times to come.
To some, this is the saddest option of them all. Pregnancy will mean that your body will bloat up to make room for your baby. Stretch marks would appear which might restrict you to wear anything too revealing. Apart from this, pregnancy cravings may result in you adding on pounds. However, you can shed weight after your delivery but most women find it pretty difficult. In short, you might undergo irreversible physical changes that might make you feel down or depressed.
Pregnancy is no piece of cake. It is one of the most difficult phases in the life of a woman. Constant bouts of nausea, giddiness, sticking to the prescribed diet, religiously having dietary supplements, morning sickness are just small parts of what pregnancy is all about. You just cannot get tired in the middle and give up. Nine months of pain and effort is what it will take to have your bundle of joy and happiness when he/she comes into this world. However, you need to be prepared to give what it takes for these coming nine months.
A baby is wholly and completely dependent on you for the fulfillment of all its needs. In the prenatal stage, you take complete care of yourself to have a healthy baby but what is equally important that you be ready to take up the responsibilities once the baby is born. The entire life of the baby and its future requires meticulous planning and responsibility.
“Now that you both are finally married, I can’t wait to have my grandchildren!” Sounds familiar? Recent statistics show that a large number of women do not take the decision of having a baby by themselves. If you want justice to be done to the baby, it is highly advisable that the decision of having a baby be your own.
If after thinking over all these factors, time and again, you are convinced that you are ready to experience the joy of motherhood, then you must go ahead and live the joy.