TRUST: THE PILLAR OF THE FAMILY.
Primary schools social studies textbooks might disagree with me on what/who the pillar of the family is? Written in bold text on their pages is that, the father is the pillar of the family without him the family can’t stand. But as we grow we realize that those duties that make the father the pillar of the family can be done by another member of the family. Some families are even raised by single mothers which makes the father-role vacant but that’s not the topic of discussion.
In marriages/relationships I believe that love is the corner stone, the remote cause of the relationship but trust is what keeps you together. In fact love without trust is just at best infatuation and in most cases just purely vague. Relationships full of love and sexual satisfaction without trust would ultimately lead to divorce or breakups.’
Think about it, if love or sex held relationships then I think you would easily forgive your spouse when he/she cheats on you, because you love them and they satisfy you sexually but you wouldn’t do that now would you? At times you think that it’s the love you have for your partner that makes you forgive them or overlook their mistakes but in reality it is the fact that you trust them, you trust they won’t intentionally want to sabotage you or the relationship.
In fact studies have shown that, kids raised in families that the parent lack trust for one another often grow up to have trust issues and anxiety problems thinking nobody trusts them. That just explains how vital and important trust is in every relationship either between the father and mother or parents and their children. And in all cases like respect, trust should be mutual.
The trust you and your partner share for one another is what makes you believe them when things aren’t well and what keeps you when things aren’t going as planned because you TRUST that they would help you steer the relationship to safety.