Many of today’s teenagers struggle with low self-esteem due to a variety of factors including peer pressure, changing bodies, and success in academics or sports. A lot of teenagers in Nigeria and even the world have terribly low self esteem. They’re not confident about anything at all, rather they hide under a shell.
As a parent, you want to help your child be as successful as possible, especially when it comes to their self-image and self-worth. Most importantly, perhaps, is that you want your child to grow into a confident and responsible adult, thriving in all areas of life. But that isn’t always easy. Many teens struggle to be accepted, both by the outside world and by themselves.
Parents can play a very important role in helping to build their teen’s sense of self. Here are surefire ways to help foster these traits in your teenager.
Set Boundaries and Expect Them to Follow Rules
Just like younger children, teenagers need boundaries. So establish firm rules and expectations that fit your family’s lifestyle and values. Clear rules communicate the value that you have for your child, and when your children know they are valued, this is the first building block of self-esteem.
Be Generous With Praise
Too often we focus on what our kids haven’t done or haven’t done right. Tune in to the positive things your teen has accomplished and offer specific praise. If your daughter has a talent for assembling things that are difficult for most of us, tell her how much you admire that ability and how it helps make your life easier around the house.
Encourage Decision-Making and Opinions
Teenagers have no shortage of opinions. So ask your teen for his ideas and try including them in some of the everyday family decisions.m Teens want to be treated like grown-ups, so give them some opportunities to join you in the adult world when at all possible, and take the time to hear them out when they do have suggestions or concerns that involve the family or your home. You might be surprised at some of their great ideas!
Be Supportive During a Conflict
If your child is in the middle of a conflict at either school or with a friend or team member, listen to his side of the story and don’t be judgmental, even if you think he is at fault. A conflict may seem silly and trivial to us, but to a hormonal teenager, it could be a major source of contention in their lives. Get in the habit of supporting your child through the good and the bad and you will be laying a strong foundation for open communication when bigger challenges come around.
No one likes to be told they didn’t do something right, particularly if it is done in anger. Choose how you criticize your impressionable teen wisely and never to criticize in front of others; that never helps in this kind of situation.
These tools can help you build your child’s self-esteem and encourage them to take more necessary risks so as they mature, they develop into confident, well-adjusted adults.