How do we raise competent adults if we’re always doing everything for our kids? How can you make them less dependent on you?
If you are still waking your kids in the mornings, it’s time to let an alarm clock do its job.
This one is easy. Let them do it themselves. Even if it’s cereals, sandwiches, or simple meals like noodles. Let them cook it.
Parents don’t miss opportunities to provide natural consequences for their teens. Forget something? Feel the pain of that. Kids also get to see, that you can make it through the day without a mistake consuming you. That way, they’ll get responsible.
School projects do not get assigned the night before they are due. Therefore, do not run out and pick up materials at the last minute to get a project finished.
Every once in a while, a child needs a healthy reminder that you do not work for them. The minute they assume that this is yoir main role in life, is the minute that you gladly hand over the laundry task to them. Let them do it themselves.
If our child has a problem with a teacher, he is going to have to take it to the one in charge. There is no way that we, as parents, are going to question or email a teacher about something that should be between the authority figure and our child.
Put the pencil down, parents. Talk about projects and papers but always have the expectation for your kids to own their work and grades.
These apps and websites made by most private schools in Nigeria where parents can go in and see every detail of children’s school grades and homework, are not helping our overparenting epidemic.
Don’t be that over involved parent. Teach your child that if something is important enough to him, then he needs to learn how to handle the issue himself or at least ask you to help them. This way, you’re raising them to become competent and capable adults.