If you could give your daughter one quality that would most enhance her chance for leading a successful life–what would it be? Believe me, the greatest gift is positive self-belief. It turns out that a mum’s level of self-confidence and how she expresses herself enhances or sabotages her daughter’s self-beliefs.
Children look up to their parents (Mom and dad) as life models for emulation.
Here are five Mum Confidence Builders that can boost your daughter’s confidence as well:
- Find Confident Role Models
A study found that a mother’s own confidence level was far more powerful determiner on her child’s self-esteem than her occupation, income, education, religion and even IQ. One quick test is ask yourself: “If my child’s self-beliefs were only based on my words and actions, what would she believe about herself?” Your answer should guide what you model and how you interact with your daughter.
Find a female role model and share why you admire her and encourage your child to seek out strong women to copy and look up to.
- Change Your Self Talk
Mothers with poor self-beliefs often bombard themselves with a steady stream of derogatory messages. Self-talk is a critical part of how we acquire self-beliefs. Research indicates that eighty-five percent of the time we talk, we’re speaking to ourselves and those inside messages help or harm our confidence as well as our daughters. Beware: the way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice.
Start saying more positive messages about yourself so your child overhears. You may feel “strange” at first, but you’ll be boosting your confidence by reducing negativity, and helping your daughter use positive self-talk and be less critical of herself.
- Change One Thing – Just One!
From our height to our hair– we are never satisfied with ourselves. Obviously, there are things we can’t change–but there are things we can tweak, which in turn, can send a great message to our daughters. One little change equals a big confidence booster and making an investment in yourself will teach your daughter that you care about yourself. So is there one little thing you’ve always wished to change– A makeup change? A new hairstyle? Or maybe it’s building a skill that would boost your confidence? Just do it!
- Strengthen Healthy Eating Habits
Studies show kids are worrying about dieting and losing weight at younger ages. Don’t undermine your influence: your daughter’s ideas about her body image can come from you. Halt your focus on looks, dieting, caloric intake and the quest for that smaller dress. The trick to turning your eating habits and fascination with size and calories is to involve your daughter in the process. It will help you and your daughter develop healthier eating habits and boost your relationship.
- Foster Your Strengths and Interests
Take time for yourself. It sends our daughters the right message and relieves stress on mum and child. Developing your strengths and interest, helps handle stress and cope with life more effectively.
Don’t pick a strength or a hobby that’s too time-consuming! Get your daughter involved in the activity so you can develop the strength together! All you need to do is find a “common connector activity” and that’s what confidence building is all about!